The 800 Pound Gorilla

   

Ever hear the expression, "800 pound gorilla in the room"? That same expression is sometimes interchangeable, instead of an 800 pound gorilla as an analogy, they use an elephant. I get and understand the metaphor, but what I want to know is, why? Very recent events in my life have me running into this very question. Why not acknowledge the 800 pound gorilla? When a certain subject matter which has been so prevalent and so persistent in the last several months, when finally seeing it first hand, why not acknowledge the obvious? Why not talk about it? Oh I see, we have to be "nice", we have to be non confrontational, we shouldn't be the one to make waves, and my personal favorite, "who are you to judge?" So let's all play, "The emperor has no clothes" and let's all drink from the Kool Aid so we won't talk about the obvious, but instead pretend we don't see it and go along with the crowd.

What do you do in this situation? Listen I don't want to generalize, every individual situation merits a bit of judgment on the part of the one trying to tell it like it is. In a life in death situation, of course you have to stand up, you have to speak up and you have to be herd, no doubt about it. Even if that other person will hate you for the rest of your life, you do it, that would be a price I'd be willing to pay. My situation isn't like that, it has more to do with seeing someone you love and care about doing stupid things, being selfish and being down right immature. No one is being confrontational, no one is making waves, and as far as me judging people, hey let's just say I'm entitled to my own opinion. I've learned that not every point, needs a counter point, some people no matter what you do, no matter you say, no matter how big a wave you make, they just won't listen, and truth be told, that individual doesn't care what you think or say. We live with certain loves ones and we know them very well, sometimes to the point where we see patterns and repeating issues in there lives, from an outsiders point of view saying something to them and confronting them for there stupidity seems like the obvious way to go, but what if you've already done that before and they don't change there behavior? So what's the answer : you just let them be. Some people want to learn the hard way.

I'm not drinking from the Kool-Aid, I realize the emperor has no clothes, and that an 800 pound gorilla is in the room and is starting to stink up the place something nasty. Yes we all see your 800 pound gorilla, I just wish that certain individual saw it to and acknowledge it, because if you don't that gorilla is gonna start taking a dump every where and before you know it, you'll be waist high in gorilla shit.